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After I had the stroke in March, I had a lot of time on my hands, like a lot of time! I also had some significant deficits that I was aware of pretty much every minute of every day. I am generally the type of person who likes to solve problems, so part of me wanted to figure out how to get things back to normal. I started writing down what was going on, mostly because I would forget about what I was thinking a few minutes after it came to mind, if I didn’t. I decided to keep a chronology of the situations that I was facing each day so that hopefully down the road I would notice some improvements. Gradually, I decided that it might be helpful to share some of this not-often-written-about journey and pass it along to other readers.

I have always tended to write non-fiction stories, generally about things that have happened in my life that I have learned from. They are not necessarily about me, but at this point the two books I have written have been memoirs, about situations that have affected myself and my family’s lives. I think that we all learn from each other along the way in life. I also find that sharing experiences can be a powerful motivator and can help someone going through a challenging situation to overcome the odds and triumph over adversity. So yes, I like memoirs, but who knows what’s next.

I had a very hard time, especially early in the process of writing this book. I would have no recollection that I had written about a particular idea already. I wasn’t able to retain any information whatsoever for many months, so if I didn’t write it down, the idea was gone. Sometimes I even forgot that I had already addressed the situation at length. It was like Writer’s Ground Hog Day every day.

An enjoyable part for me though was watching as words kind of flowed out of me. I had no idea what day it was, couldn’t walk steadily, and was unable to type, text or use my left arm, but I was able to write with a pen and paper like it was my job. It was also awesome when by writing about the chain of events, I could see that I was making improvements.

My interest in writing began in my early teens. I initially took up journal writing as a way of reflecting on what was going on in my life. I have always been the introspective type and I found that it was kind of a neat way to bounce ideas around with myself. It was also a great way to get concerns out. I used to find that I was less likely to overthink when I would write my worries down; it would take it outside myself. I increasingly enjoyed writing and gradually branched out to writing stories.

I have done more than a few speaking engagements in the past. In the months following the release of my first book, ‘To Dance in the Rain’ I was invited to do author talks, speak about the book as well as about the topics of head injuries and strokes at a handful of senior centers, support groups and a local library. I would be more than happy to speak about my latest release, Thinking of Better Days. My goal is to raise awareness of the 5th leading cause of death in the US today and to help others learn about the risks, prevention and how to deal with life following a stroke.

Interestingly, authoring this book involved an entirely different process than most writing I have done in the past. I used to have to be a bit more relaxed. Would usually go for a long ride and when my mind quieted down would be able to write easily. I wrote To Dance in The Rain almost entirely in the car or at the side of a river or lake after a relaxing scenic drive. The first chapter was written at a rest
stop up on the Taconic parkway in Upstate NY.

This time I was a little more restricted, with not driving at first and then less than in the past. (Not to mention the gas prices!) Life has been slower moving, though, and I have nothing but time, so that lends to being more relaxed inside. In that place where the words can be found.

Anyway, all I need to do is have nothing pressing on my mind. I can only imagine then that if I were a Buddhist monk I would have written countless titles by now.

Incidentally, I used to write almost all my work on paper with my favorite gel pens. The gellier the pen the easier thoughts would flow. Now I am moving more into this millenium and typing the majority of my projects. (Don’t sell your stock in Staples just yet though; The gel pens are still used on a regular basis for my countless to-do lists and pads filled with ideas.)

Book Related FAQs:

‘Thinking of Better Days’ was inspired by the effects that having a stroke can have on the way you think. When life is kind of cruising along like it usually does, you don’t think much about a lot of particulars. When you are struck though by a sudden illness that changes certain parts of the ‘Normal You’, it’s typical to pay attention to that and watch those changes within yourself. Like a lot.

I imagine that this may be especially true when you are noticing that your thinking is different from the way it has always been. In reality we hang out with ourselves all the time, every day. We are all very familiar with the way we react to things, how we deal with life circumstances and particularly how you react and think about things. This is stuff we usually don’t think twice about.

Many times, after having a stroke our brain pathways are damaged by the injury and we are unable to think the way we usually do. It’s devastating to find yourself to be very different from who you have always been.

As I noticed all the changes to the way I was now thinking, I realized that there were a few perspectives on how the changes could be viewed.

I found myself looking back at better days, experiencing them in the present moment as well as looking ahead and forward again to ‘Better Days’. It’s always about perspective I believe, and there is wisdom to be found in all of it, even in the midst of major life challenges.

Yes, I have self-published both of my books, and there are more than a few reasons why.

Even if I were a big-name author and was receiving emails and texts daily from
Randon House and Harper Collins, I might still consider self-publishing.

The main advantage is that you are a lot more autonomous on all decisions
related to the books production. Here are some reasons self- publishing has
advantages for Indie authors as well as the big-name authors:
• Author has more control over content and design.
• Quicker time to market
• It is easier to make revisions if needed
• More than a few financial advantages: Control over price, Higher Royalties, Tax advantages
• Still have a springboard in place to change to traditional publishing.
• Can keep your book in print as long as you would like.

Granted there are pros and cons to both methods and most authors have a preference for a variety of reasons. I personally enjoy the process of directing all that needs to be done to publish a book. It’s kind of fun. (Granted my standards for fun are a bit iffy!) I thought it was nice to choose and be in communication with the persons involved in all aspects of my books production. Including but not limited to content editor, interior and cover designer, website designer, professional editors, proofreaders, social media advisors and printing company representatives.

So, I’ll probably continue to carry on self-publishing, at least until “the Big 5” Trade Publishing companies insist on sitting down to have a chat. : )

Stroke Related FAQs:

The absolute best way to avoid a stroke is to reduce or eliminate your stroke risk factors. If there is a history of stroke or heart disease in your family, this is a good time to start being proactive and reduce your chances of having one. While it is great that you start making moves toward optimal health, it is also important to have a conversation with your PCP to work together to reduce your risk factors. There are a few health concerns that will make you a higher risk for a stroke. Some you can eliminate, some you can’t. They include hypertension, high cholesterol, diabetes, atrial fibrillation, smoking, age and obesity. While you can’t control some of these, you can stay vigilant with getting most under control.

The symptoms and deficits following a stroke will be unique to each individual and depend on the severity and location of the injury to the brain. That is at least one of the reasons why it is hard to predict if and when people affected by stroke will progress and heal. 

There are some general considerations about how healing of the brain occurs. One is that there are some areas in the brain that are more likely to produce new neurons and synapses. Another is that generally the younger the patient is the more likely they are to form new pathways or synapses. A fairly new study done, which is spoken about in the book points out that scientists are noticing that the production of new nerve cells, neurogenesis, is taking place in humans much later in life than previously thought. That is some good news for those of us affected by injured brain cells. It is also important that people receive rehabilitative therapies as early as possible after a stroke. These would include Occupational, Physical and Speech and cognitive therapies.

Then there is the fact that our miraculous brain is just looking for ways to heal itself. So if we continue to maintain our general health and decrease our risk factors, our body will try its hardest to heal itself.

Yes, there actually are a variety of things that can be done to promote brain
healing and recovery. Some will benefit more on a physical level and others will
promote cognitive reorganization and the process of thinking.

It is important to work with someone who is familiar with post-stroke therapies. I
would hope that most people leaving a hospital following a stroke would have
been evaluated by a physical, occupational and speech therapist to assess their
deficits and if needed be referred to whichever therapies they would benefit
from. The sooner the better too, so be proactive if you or a loved one has not
been thoroughly evaluated following a stroke.

Thinking of Better Days does go into a fair amount of detail on brain health and
offers a lot of info on what we can do to exercise to challenge our brain and
promote new synapse growth.

Yes, fortunately there are some activities we can take part in to give our brains some light exercise as it is healing.  ** It is important to ask your doctor before doing any that would seem a bit taxing considering where you are in your healing process, though.)

These are also helpful in simply promoting healthy neuron and synapse regrowth deep inside all of our brains. Age creeps up on all of us! Activities to promote a healthy brain: All these activities will be more specifically explained in Thinking of Better Days.

  • Meditation
  • Visualization
  • Playing relaxing card games
  • Crossword puzzles
  • Memory card games
  • Jigsaw puzzles
  • Number Puzzles – such as Sudoku
  • Checkers or chess
  • Socializing
  • Learning a new skill (increasing vocabulary or learn a new language)
  • Listening to music
  • Take up a new hobby
  • Exercise regularly/ engage in a sport
  • Sleep